For Most But Not All Your Search For Safety, Security And To Belong Began Around 18 Months Old.
The Infant Begins To Construct, Form And Weave Together Various Components That Make A Protective Shield.
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As soon as you are born you are emotionally, mentally and physically attached to your mother. When mom smiles the baby smiles when mom cries the baby cries, vice versa.
As the baby grows to about 18 months old the baby begins to transform into a child. At this age, the child is no longer fully emotionally, mentally and physically attached to the mother.
At 18 months old the child is not fully conscious of seeking out safety and security but they start to around this time. At 18 months old you begin to stretch, flex, test your muscles, and seek and search out your own sense of safety, security and belonging.
If you grew up in an unhealthy home and neglect, abandonment, denial, rejection, parents were to buy and had no time for you, etc., was a major issue for you as you grew up as an infant, then physical survival needs would have kicked in much earlier.
For most but not all, generally speaking around 18 months old when an infant turns into a child, the child figures out ways for safety, security and to belong. The infant begins to construct, form and weave together various components that make a protective shield.
The protective shield is designed to keep out the pain of abandonment, neglect, denial, hurts, being wrong, anger, shame, etc., which start to form at 18months old.
This shield that we think protects us, stays up till the needs are met but for most but not all the protective shield stays up even well after the needs of safety, security and belonging are met.
This too becomes an addiction, to constantly search out safety, security and to be needed.