Hi loving friends
Thank you for being here
We are going to talk about self pity today
Understanding Self-Pity — and How to Heal It
Self-pity wears many masks: the Victim, the Martyr, the Blamer, and the Struggler.
Each has its own way of saying, “Poor me”—sometimes loudly, sometimes in silence.
The Victim shares their suffering openly, certain life is against them.
The Martyr suffers quietly, hoping others will notice and appreciate their pain.
The Blamer points the finger at everyone and everything—including themselves—for why life isn’t working.
The Struggler overworks, overcomplicates, and stays in a cycle of “trying” that never seems to bring ease.
No matter the role, self-pity keeps you stuck. It drains energy, repels support, and often pushes people away—not because they don’t care, but because constant self-pity becomes exhausting to be around.
Why We Fall Into Self-Pity
Self-pity is often learned early—from family patterns, cultural beliefs, societal rewards for struggle, gender role expectations, and even spiritual teachings that glorify suffering. It can also show up as a way to avoid responsibility, to manipulate situations through weakness, or to mask unexpressed emotions—especially anger.
The ego loves self-pity because it keeps you feeling powerless. And when we avoid facing our feelings or taking ownership of our life, self-pity becomes a familiar hiding place.
The Truth About Self-Pity and Self-Importance
On the surface, they look different—but self-importance often grows from self-pity.
Both keep you locked in a story of not being seen, valued, or appreciated enough. And both block authentic self-expression.
Healing Self-Pity
The first step is to recognize and admit when you’re in it—without shame. From there, healing becomes possible. This work isn’t about judging yourself; it’s about reclaiming your power and freeing your energy for growth, creativity, and connection.
In my one-on-one sessions, we look honestly at where self-pity is showing up in your life—whether hidden or obvious—and release it through powerful healing corrections. Together, we shift you out of the “poor me” pattern and into your authentic self, where you’re free to create and express without needing sympathy, validation, or struggle.
Self-pity is not who you are.
It’s just a story you’ve learned to tell. Let’s write a new one—together.
Thank you Chris Parr
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