You Tube Video 1 Clues You Have Adult Shame

 

You Tube Video 2 Come To Peace With Adult Shame

 

You Tube Video 3 Adult Shame Is Suppose To Offer

 

You Tube Video 4 Why Adult Shame Went A Skew

 

Adult Shame Is Perhaps The Most Devastating Shame Of All And The Most Deceptive And Indeed The Most Insidious Level And The Most Damaging Wave Of Shame That You Can Experience. 

With the previous waves, no matter how devastating and disturbing they have been, however much they have rocked your boat or seemed to knock you off course, even at times seemingly hopelessly knocked you off course, none of those previous waves have capsized you. And like those previous waves, however, this fourth wave of shame, adult shame, with its deep pain, can do just that: it can capsize you. It can be a destructive form force of shame.

With each of the previous levels, say it be the pre-verbal shame of infancy, the first break of childhood shame, or the teenage shame of adolescence years, yes, they did mess up your past, and they continued to damage, disturb, and disrupt an ever function of an ever-present child, ever-present infant, ever-present adolescents within.

Those previous waves of Shame in the various waves of karma have accumulated and have devastatingly impacted you. They have robbed you of the precious pieces of your past. To the extent that the past still influences to the extent that even for some of you the past seems to still have control.

Those previous waves can be tremendously disruptive to your present reality. Those previous waves have twisted and distorted the very foundation of your being and, therefore, continue to twist and distort the very function, the very structure of your present, and potentially the very scaffold of your future. But indeed, adult shame with its deadly pain is not something that happened to you; it’s not something disrupted or damaged, or twisted and distorted. It is something that is twisting, is distorting, is disrupting, and is currently doing damage. It is a shame that did not happen in the past but in fact, it is happening right now in your very present and is severely threatening your very future.

With the previous waves of shame, you can assess when it happened and what damage it did. With the current wave, the adult shame, with its deadly deep pain, can only anticipate, can only imagine when it’s going to stick fully and completely, ly, and you can only imagine and you can only anticipate the kind of damage that it is going to do.

As difficult as it has been to work with those previous waves or to work with them currently, you are working with them in retrospect, you are working with them after the fact.

You see you are no longer an infant, you’re no longer a child, you are no longer an adolescent but in fact, you are a grown-up who is working with an infant, working with the child, working with an adolescent and you have the leverage of a grown-up hood, you have the leverage that retrospect gives you. But with adult shame, with this current wave of Shame, this detaining pain of this adult shame. You don’t have the leverage of retrospect, you don’t have the leverage of being beyond it or our side of it.

With the previous waves, you are, in a sense, outside, and as you understand and know from set theory, you can thoroughly understand a set and work with it once you are outside of it. But with adult shame, you are in the midst of the set. Yes, we suppose you could wait till you are outside when you are in the golden year’s wave. We suppose you could wait till then after you have left this life. Then you would be sufficiently outside the set of adult shame and then could look back and retrospect and have the full advantage but then it’s a little too late, isn’t it?

Then you can come back in another lifetime and deal with it at that point but that’s not what you’re after or looking for. That solution is perhaps an easy one but not an adequate one. You are in the midst of the set, you are in the midst of the very shame.

Therefore, it is more complicated, it is more intricate, and indeed more necessary to deal with. But it doesn’t have to be more difficult.

The first clue you are stuck in Adult Shame Is Do you find yourself hopelessly watching successes slip through your fingers? Almost happened, almost had it In the palm of your hand, almost had that big break, and then it evaporated, it unraveled itself before your very eyes. You didn’t do anything you just sat there and watched it unravel, watched the very success rip apart, watched the very thing you created slip through your fingers and crumble to pieces. That’s Adult Shame 

Or the very thing you wanted wasn’t the same as you created, but the very thing you wanted almost happened. You almost had it but not. You didn’t panic but you watched it impotently as it slipped through your fingers. You prepare, and you try to make it work, but no matter what you do, plan for, organize, and dedicate your time and energy to, it falls apart right in front of you. You go numb, feel worthless, and Feel success will never happen for you no matter what you do. That’s an Adult shame

Do you find yourself threatened, do you find yourself anxious when success honestly threatens to happen? That’s an adult shame. 

You see as long as I can program and work towards them. As long as I can have them as dreams, not reality, as long as I can have them as a goal, not a current function then I’m fine and cool. I got it handled

 I can program, meditate, I can process, I can do what nobody has ever seen, and then all of a sudden, the dream is happening, all of a sudden, not just pieces of it, not just little bits of it, but the whole darn thing is starting to happen. I am overwhelmed with anxiety because I am being threatened by the very success for years that I have been seeking. That is Adult Shame 

Do you find yourself overwhelmed with envy, jealousy even rage at other people’s success? As much as you tell them oh great, I’m so happy, so glad, I’m so happy for you, that’s wonderful, but raging, angry, jealous, and envious in your being. I am envious of them, what did they do, how come they, why not me, it’s wrong, it’s unfair, God is doing this to me, feeling envious, jealous, even rage at the fact they are succeeding, at the fact they are getting what they want, at the fact that their metaphysics is working despite the smiles, congratulations on the surface and underneath is this tremendous fire brewing. As much as you hate it you can’t help it. That’s an indicator that you are in adult shame. 

Do you find yourself, no matter how happy reality is you never really feel happy or refuse to be happy, always finding the yay but, it could be, might be, don’t count your chicken’s eggs before they hatch, do you always insist on being unhappy, always feeling separate, somehow alien, alienated, do you find your self separate with your higher self, soul or God-Goddess. This is Adult Shame 

Do you always feel separate, always feel like you just don’t quite fit or belong anywhere? Certainly, all of you may feel you don’t belong somewhere, but you always feel separate.

You hear about other people about how wonderful and how beautiful things are for them but it is never quite there for you. Always vague, always feel somehow separate, always unhappy no matter how good things are. This Is Adult Shame 

Do you find yourself hating yourself, running yourself down, ridiculing yourself, without mercy when you make the most inconsequential error? The slightest transgression, no, no, it’s a big major thing, no, it demonstrates my total lack of caring, my total lack of love, my total insincerity, my total stupidity. Ha, it was just a little thing, you messed up here, you messed up there, you forgot this, you didn’t do that right. No, I’m not going to minimize this, I’m not going to shove this under the rug, I was rotten, I was a low life, I was scum human, this is terrible, I should be punished, I should be ostracized From all of society, I should never be given another chance, you should never care and love for me ever again, I should be sent off somewhere, it’s just a little thing. No, don’t minimize it, don’t protect me, don’t patronize me. It’s a major thing. Yes, it’s a little symptom, but it’s a symptom of a huge problem, and I hate myself for it. Do you find yourself doing that that’s an adult shame 

Or Do You Over Correct Yourself With Grieves Mistake? At the same time when you do make a grieves error, you defend it, you deny it, you distract yourself, you fill yourself with delusions, you minimize it as no big deal, and you’re making it a mountain when it’s a molehill, it’s not my fault it’s your fault, it’s your reality you’re creating it wasn’t me I didn’t do it, why did you create me doing it, it’s your perpetration, not mine.

The little ones I’ll destroy myself over, but the big ones, oh n,o, not me, I have nothing to do with that. To delude yourself, defend yourself, distract or deny the very error itself when it’s grieving, when it is significant when it is a big one.

Or Do You Panic When Someone Says They Love You Or When Someone Says They Need You, Relys, depends and even counts Upon You? Somebody Loves Me And Needs Me. I Don’t Know What To Do. Oh no, I can’t bear this; oh no, I am being used. That’s what it is; they are using me, no, they need you. 

Oh my god, you love me, oh no don’t do that, don’t be rash, no, don’t let’s, back up and work at it.

How much you have sought relationships, how many books you have read, how many workshops you have attended, how many mp3s you have listened to, how many times you have gone about trying to create what I want. I want an intimate relationship, I want someone to love, I want someone to care for, I want someone to love me, then all of a sudden okay, okay I love you, wow but wait a moment, oh my goodness I wasn’t counting on this, moving too quick here, getting too involved, I wasn’t ready for this kind commitment, oh gosh this is happening to fast panic oh my God somebody loves me and I don’t know what to do. 

I know how to try to make somebody love me, I know how to program and create somebody to love me but I don’t know what to do if they really do. I’m not prepared to deal with the fact. I’m prepared to look for love but not to feel it. I’m prepared to create a relationship but not to have one. 

You hang up on me, you’ll be sorry, you don’t want to do that. I want to prepare to be relied upon I don’t really want to be relied on. I like to prepare and take courses, and I like to study how to become but I am not really ready to be relied upon, be needed and be loved if I find myself panicking when someone says, genuinely says I love you and that I need you and I am relying upon you that’s a very large clue you are in the midst of adult shame. Not infant, childhood but right here, right now adult stuff. Adult shame 

Or the world must be fixed before you can apply

Or do you feel you must be fixed, constantly trying to be whole but can never be whole?

Or do you always catch yourself panicking 

Or do you Catch yourself always filled with worry 

Or are you on the fence of life 

Or are you Drenched in your absolute battle of righteousness, 

Or do you Seek revenge or do you want to carry it out, I got to get even with rage, spitefulness, and revenge, for they should know better. 

Or do you beat yourself up for a silly mistake you have made 

Or do you feel unstable

Or do you feel you Never will be or never have been 

Or Do you want to run, but freeze and can’t move

Or Do you feel like a Loner or looser, failure of life fully express 

These are the clues, that you’re wrapped up in the midst of the here and now, right smack dab in the center of the set, of the pain of adult shame.

Maybe they are not exactly yours, but if these kinds of things are going on with you then you have adult shame. 

You need to come to peace with the fact it’s here, not with the content of it, not what you’re doing with it perhaps but you need to come to peace with the fact that it’s here.

If you would like any deep energetic healing around these clues and indicators of Adult Shame, then I would be happy to assist you. 

You will learn the specific techniques geared precisely with this kind of a shame to end Your Adult shame completely and conclusively.

So Be it 

This is

Chris Parr